I Want to be Free! I want a Divorce Now! What Should I do?

By Santo Artusa on May 15, 2019

You've mentally called it quits. You look at your spouse and you are disgusted. You do not want to be in the same room as your spouse let alone in the same bed with that deceitful piece of Sh-t who has used you for money, turns your children against you or has tried to, He or she has spent your money in a way that makes Ivanka Trump look like an angel. You cannot concentrate at work as your spouse is openly cheating on you with someone you know! The list goes on and on for reasons why you want to file for divorce and why you want to be free, NOW! While I cannot get you "free" now! I can help you obtain a divorce that you can live with so that you have very little interaction(s) with your soon to be former spouse. However, if you want a divorce very fast and do not care, you will feel the pain later on, I can assure you of that. You will be back to court time and time again as your spouse tries to maintain a means of control over you. So in short, while I totally understand you want a divorce yesterday, you do not want to make a rash decision now so that you can run away. The fact of the matter is, when you run away, you will be caught. The smarter way to handle it is to run away with a clear roadmap so that when and if you get caught, you can deal with the consequences. We can help you get free with a clear path and plan for the future. I am Santo V. Artusa, Jr., Esq and I am a licensed divorce lawyer in New Jersey with an office in the real capital of New Jersey, Jersey City.

While your emotions are leading you to go free, you need to use your head to make rational decisions that will affect you and your children (if applicable) for a very long time. For instance, if your spouse is an alcoholic or is/was abusive, do you want to simply agree to shared residential custody? If you do, do not call me. If you do not, lets keep going. The future is more important than your past. We can make a plan you can live with so that you are indeed free. Otherwise you may make a deal so that you are free now but on lifetime parole, is that what you want? No! I hope not! So do not settle for lifetime parole if I can make a plan so that there are clear boundaries and a plan that allows you to live a fruitful life of freedom from harassment and a hateful former spouse.

You may listen to your friends you may be divorced or may be in a "perfect" marriage, but let me tell you, do not listen to them. They have no idea what went on in your home. They have no idea how you really feel or how your children feel. I know its easier said than done, but do it, listen to me, an family law attorney with more than 2000 cases under his belt and who is married with two children. Those on the outside are just that, on the outside. Listen to your attorney, listen to your therapist, aside from that, ignore most advice you get. I grew up in an Italian household. When my sister said she wanted a divorce, my mother wanted to disown her and my father went nuts. I stood by her side. I was not a lawyer yet, I believe I was 24 years old, but I believed in my sister. So while your parents who love you to the moon and back advise you in situations, it does not mean they are right. They are trying, but again, its only you waking up everyday next to someone or in an empty bed because your wife or husband refuses to come home, not them. You need advice from someone that is not emotionally involved in your life, a lawyer is someone you need to go to and trust with everything. The attorney will give you an honest opinion of what is going on and what are the positives and negatives of your case.

So while I want you to be free, trust me I do, you need to have a clear plan, a Declaration of Independence and Constitution if you will so that your freedom wil be assurred. So take it from me, while yoiu may just want to sign everything over or waive everything because you are in love with someone else or you just want to run, don't! Call us today to discuss your situation and to see how we can help you. Call us on 973-337-9643 in our Jersey City office, we represent clients throughout New Jersey.

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