What to Really Ask The Best Divorce Attorney or Custody Lawyer in NJ By Santo Artusa on May 10, 2020

Finding the Best Divorce Attorney in Jersey City, NJ

What should you really ask a divorce or custody attorney near me in Hudson County, New Jersey to determine who is the best divorce or family law/custody lawyer for you is? With divorce, there can be other related legal issues to contend with such as: domestic violence restraining orders, property division, high net worth clients and child support outside the child support guidelines, what is a marital asset?, child custody and visitation and so forth. Whatever the issues is, an experienced divorce lawyer in New Jersey should know what to do and how to guide you. I write this article as a Jersey City divorce lawyer and through my experience serving Jersey City and in Hudson County. Not only do I practice in Jersey City but I also live here with my family.

First, ask yourself what is best for you for your ideal divorce or family law attorney? Is it someone aggressive? Someone able to negotiate? Is it based on cost? Based on experience in the divorce or family law field? It is my strong opinion that the best divorce lawyers share similar traits:

  1. The best divorce attorneys in New Jersey listen more than they speak.
  2. The divorce lawyer should know which options you have and which way to achieve those options.
  3. The attorney can be aggressive but does not have to be aggressive to get the job done. Sometimes being too aggressive creates more problems than necessary.
  4. The attorney is trying to find solutions for you that will help you now and in the future.
  5. The divorce lawyer will understand the key factors in support alimony payments and considerations.
  6. There will be a clear explanation of the divorce process in New Jersey as every state is different.
  7. The divorce lawyer should have at least 5 years of experience in family law matters.
  8. Patience. Your attorney should be patient and understanding of what you are facing.
  9. Your lawyer should know the difference in divorce and legal separations.
  10. The attorney can clearly express him or herself in person and in writing. Persuasion is a key skill.
  11. Trust. You can trust your lawyer with your money and anything you tell him or her.
  12. Confidence. Your divorce or any lawyer should be confident with you, with other lawyers and in court.
  13. Gets to the Point. Good news or bad news should be told right away. A great lawyer will save you time and money by getting to the point.
  14. Respectful. Respects you, your family, frankly respects everyone that deserves respect.

Next, Is it best to have a free consultation or a paid consultation to determine the right fit for me?

(We offer Both- Free is 10-15 minutes and is based on generic information that you provide, while Paid is 30-60 minutes and is custom to your case). The list goes on and on. I've written the following questions as if I was searching for a divorce or child custody attorney by me or in Hudson County, New Jersey. 

  1. How many divorce or family law cases have you handled in Hudson County, New Jersey?
  2. How many years have you practiced in Hudson County regarding child custody or divorce?
  3. Why do you practice family law and divorce law in New Jersey?
  4. Where did you go to school? What training is most relevant to your work?
  5. Have you handled a case with similar facts as mine? If so what was the result? 
  6. Have you won those cases? Lost? Would you do anything differently now? 
  7. How would you handle the case from the start?
  8. Can you handle my case quickly? 
  9. Which documents can I provide you with to help my case? 
  10. My case goals are XXXXX, what do you think about those goals? 
  11. How long do you think the case will take? 
  12. Will you handle the case or someone else in the firm?
  13. What is your retainer? 
  14. How often do you bill clients? 
  15. What do you bill for? 
  16. What's the best way to reach you for advice and updates?
  17. Do you have flexible office hours? 
  18. Why should I choose you or why would you take my case?

Lastly, a good divorce lawyer will not take cases where:

  1. He or she knows the party does not have a good case for what the client is seeking.
  2. That the client is lying or will lie.
  3. The client is seeking justice for every man or woman in the world. This is not an opera or a soap opera.
  4. The client demands certain relief that he or she is not entitled to.
  5. The client is disrespectful.

The above are just some important questions to help you determine who the best divorce or family law attorney by you (me) in Hudson County, New Jersey is. Through my client relationships, I've learned what my clients appreciated most about me and my team. I hope this helps you and if you need me for a consult, I offer virtual, phone and in-person consults. Call 973-337-9643.

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Santo V. Artusa, Jr.

Santo V. Artusa, Jr.

Since 2009, Mr. Artusa has dedicated his career to representing clients in and near Jersey City in family law and criminal cases. He is a skilled negotiator and litigator who has received a range of prestigious recognitions, including:

  • The National Trial Lawyers Top 100
  • Avvo 10.0 Superb Rating
  • Client Distinction Award 2015

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