"I want to go to trial." "I don't care what happens, I want the Judge to decide." "Screw this, I am not paying that. Let a Judge tell me what to pay." Divorce. Family Law. Emotions run high and clear thinking goes away. You have to be ready to go through a lot when you file for divorce and the parties do not agree agree on major issues. You will hear things you do not want to hear. Your spouse will hear things he or she does not want to hear. You may hear some things you like, but do not count on it. Prepare instead. If the United States listened to others that it could not invade Europe and survive, where would we be today? Instead MacArthur and Patton went on. They knew they would have to go through hell at times to get to where they wanted to go. You will go through sometimes in a divorce that will make you want to quit or that feels like hell. It is up to you if you want to quit but it would be easier to withstand hell if you at least knew what you may face. I tell my clients what they will face to even get a chance at what they want. That "want" may be less alimony, less child support, child custody, more assets, etc. Are you willing to fight? Can you afford to fight? You cannot win a war without a war chest and weapons. Will the other side outspend you? Is your pride making your decisions? Is your new love interest making your decisions? You have to be very careful when dealing with the family court and how it will affect your life going forward.
Family Court is not like court on TV. You will not have the full attention of the court. You will not have a jury. You will not be the only case heard that day. You cannot use hearsay. You cannot enter everything into evidence. It will not be fast and easy. It is not efficient. It will be time consuming, stressful and expensive. I do not say this to scare you, hell I would want a trial to if some mediator or mediators told me I have to pay $12,000 a month in alimony too! I will fight it to the death. I would fight to the death if I could not see my child. The list goes on but I am just trying to tell you: you have to be mentally and financially ready to fight the battle.
In short, trial costs time and money. If the other side knows you can't afford it, they will continue to take unreasonable positions so that you just give up. Will you let that happen? Don't. If you have a family court or divorce court case in Hudson County-Jersey City, New Jersey, contact my team on (201) 228-9815.
For more about alimony defense in New Jersey Divorce Court see here: https://youtu.be/NAT1WrlQcZc